Of course the grass is never greener, but who knew? And you can do this easily by treating others like you want to be treated. It served her purpose to define me as frustrating and difficult or lazy and exhausting. I have 5 wonderful children and no I haven’t been the perfect mom but I have loved them with all I have had the power too and tho they are all grown adults now I am still pouring love into the I lives. What a shame it took me this long. Should I ever attempt to defend myself or stand up for myself, rest assured, rejection again! 3 hours ago As long as I am looking at me I will never look at them and as long as I am not looking at them I won’t see the pathetic person behind the abusive, controlling belittling and self-important attitude. SO fucking adorable and sweet!

I’m the asshole, narcissist, control freak that wants everything done the right way. Today’s society however is focused on pity.

You were taught wrong.

It makes me feel horrible. I also have difficulty treating myself and living a comfortable life…I make it difficult for myself. Mom decided.

That asshole you described also needs validation. We do pick our friends, but we don’t have to tolerate either if we choose not to.

I’m the asshole, narcissist, control freak that wants everything done the right way. Perhaps your passive-aggressive behavior led to an openly abusive response from your friend or lover?Is it possible that you are not seeing the way you mistreat others and only seeing the reaction? It is our parents/family we most look up to, so when that experience is terrible, then the damage has already been done, and that’s what will make us “obsess” (bad choice of wording there on your part) over other experiences that are a match to it, because they serve to strengthen our negative beliefs.“Your article places emphasis on the authority figures in your life that had a negative influence on you, thereby implying they were the cause for your emotional stress and insecurities.”That is an indisputable fact. My Dad was an angry alcoholic that emotionally and physically abused my Mom. I am glad to be calmer now and finding myself ever so slowly. And many of us are f’ed up!Your article only touches on a small factor in a very large and dynamic composite of emotional challenges influenced over years and years of interaction and struggle.

When I felt bad, I tried harder to please her; when I tried harder, she felt better about herself. It has been such a cold existence. You will attract negative if you’ve already been fed lies by your family AND you do nothing to unlearn those faulty beliefs later in life. Drarry Camille Desmoulins Garrett Clayton Camille Desmoulins Garrett Clayton “How does it feel To treat me like you do? When her husbands family comes to visit, I’m sent off to a hotel for the entire visit. I was eventually forced to move in with my sister and her family, and we moved 1600 miles away from everything I knew and loved. It was either really sarcastic, cocky, put downs, degrading or plain rude. I am worthy of being treated right.How do you treat yourself?

I had a 4th grade teacher that once hit me with a yard stick in the middle of class because she didn’t like the way I answered a question.

I thought I was mistaken I thought I heard your words Tell me how do I feel? One day however, her favorite student drew a picture, (exactly the same as I always did) and she held it up for everyone to see. People grow up to become the people they were influenced by. We would rather blame than take blame.

Thank you Darlene.I always felt like I had no ‘real’ issues as I was never sexually abused. Thankfully the fog is lifting.had this goin on for a while, in hospitals and in home situation with carers –thought it must be me, they said it was me – I was too hard – too demanding – too … whatever…a lot of things have come to light now – a lot of gosspip – realising that I actually never asked too much – just basic needs – if anything I had not asked enough –but here we are now – they say I took the energy out of the team by being demanding – even tho it s all set straightnow –but too – as you say – I stopped trying to please the carers by making the list as low management as possible, it didn t change anything cause I made them feel they were right – I did ask too much – well they would teach me a lesson – good now the list was a lot less to the point they at times would to nothing at all for a while – just sit there – refuse too to do something else –I can t please them, it s not even about pleasing, I never did anything wrong to begin with – misunderstandings happened and then the dynamics that were already present in the team that I had noc lue about at that time – began to work their mojo – so here we are now –and I can t solve their self esteem nor is it my job – I m at the recieving end asking for care – as once I did as a child – and as a child just as well – I could not please my mother ever – and I never will be able too –seems however that admitting that brings up all the pain and makes me cry wchich still feels so unsafe, to express emotions – there are times I check the place if no one has come in family member wise to see me – and to act upon what they see – still – to this day –Thank you for your honesty. FreeBasic |

I have lived my WHOLE life in misery with no personal celebrations. Thanks for reading as ice been rambling here.You are not alone!

Tell me how do I feel?” Others are influenced. Her hostility became so normal I only realized this just now, just how bad her attitude really was to me.

You, yourself and nobody else. So we go in, she closes the door. By continuing to use Pastebin, you agree to our use of cookies as described in the Those who came before me.


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